Category Archives: NY Times


Dec

02

2016
Do Not Go Gentle

Do Not Go Gentle

Op-Ed Columnist December 2, 2016 Roger Cohen A friend once told me about going to see her father shortly before he died. He had advanced Alzheimer’s and peered at her blankly. Then he said: “You are home.” “Yes, Dad,” she said. “I’m your daughter.” He said, “I had you too much under my thumb.” Home, and what constitutes it, is the most potent of memories….

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Nov

25

2016

Becoming the Sports Parent I Wished I’d Had

November 25, 2016 By JOHN NUCKEL My mother screamed at me from the bleachers only once. It was 39 years ago, but I still cringe from the memory of it. “John Nuckel, get over here right now!” she yelled. I looked up at the clock. Only 35 seconds until halftime. I can hold out, I told myself, as I developed a plan: Ignore my mother…

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Nov

22

2016

College Advice for the Cost of a Single Post-it Note

November 22, 2016 The Checkup By PERRI KLASS, M.D. The college application process tends to press the when-I-was-your-age button in many of us parents, and bring on those monologues so universally beloved by our adolescent children. They are no doubt delighted to hear that we were not under the kind of pressure that we worry may be blighting their lives, that our parents were decently…

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Nov

22

2016
Should Parents Be Expected to Donate to a Public School?

Should Parents Be Expected to Donate to a Public School?

November 22, 2016 The Ethicist By KWAME ANTHONY APPIAH Our granddaughter is in kindergarten at a highly ranked elementary school: Test scores average in the top 1 percent of the schools in the state. Only 1.2 percent of the students are on a free or low-cost lunch. A sheet is passed out to parents of all students in the school from the parents’ organization at…

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Nov

21

2016

Raising 5 Sons Alone, 3 With Autism, Takes a Toll on a Mother’s Body

November 21, 2016 The Neediest Cases By JOHN OTIS Though Melissa Ferrer moved into her new home in July, she has refused to paint her sons’ bedroom walls blue. She does not dare get too comfortable, a symptom of her years of homelessness. Ms. Ferrer, 33, is a single mother of five sons. All of them have spent portions of their childhoods in New York…

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Nov

21

2016

Special Diets Can Heighten Tensions at the Holiday Dinner Table

By RONI CARYN RABIN November 21, 2016 Lisa Yates has a 13-year-old who cannot eat nuts and an 18-year-old who will not eat gluten. When the family hops on a train on Thursday to visit relatives for Thanksgiving, Ms. Yates will be carrying nut-free chocolate, gluten-free banana bread and two containers of stuffing – a nut-free version and a gluten-free version. “It’s challenging, but you get used to…

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Nov

17

2016
Dumped Moms, Gun-Toting Guests: It’s Thanksgiving

Dumped Moms, Gun-Toting Guests: It’s Thanksgiving

November 17, 2016 Social Q’s By PHILIP GALANES My son is my only child. When he was 4, I divorced his father and raised him on my own. I didn’t receive any financial support, so I worked full time to support us. Now my son is married with three children. But since he married, I am not included in family holidays like Thanksgiving or Christmas….

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Nov

11

2016

Parents Navigate Tears and Cheers as Kids React to Election

By MITCH SMITH and RACHEL RABKIN PEACHMAN November 11, 2016 In the Roethle household in Leawood, Kan., the children woke up on Wednesday to a family celebration. Donald J. Trump was the new president. But the excitement came with an admonition “to be a good winner” and not to gloat about his win at school. “Kindness is the No. 1 thing in our house,” said Alana Roethle, 37, a mother…

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Nov

11

2016

Family Travel in a Time of Fear

November 11, 2016 By LARA N. DOTSON-RENTA My 7-year-old daughter scampered over the cobblestones of a narrow Paris street, proudly holding a bag of fresh cherries. She had asked for them herself: “Des cerises, s’il vous plaît!” Meanwhile, a few steps away, my 4-year-old was offering her finest “Merci” to the carousel attendant collecting tokens for the next ride. She squealed every time she caught…

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Nov

09

2016

Should You Spy on Your Kids?

By NICK WINGFIELD November 9, 2016 SEATTLE — In the middle of a long bicycle ride several weeks ago, I pulled over for a rest and took out my iPhone to send a text message to my wife. I had a feeling she might be watching me. “If you’re checking my location, I’m not dead,” I wrote to her. “I’m getting coffee on Mercer Island.” As it…

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